“Old, but I'm not that old
Young, but I'm not that bold”
I was driving home from work today when this song popped up on the radio. It's not a new song, and I've probably heard on the radio countless times since it came out. I'm a Zumba instructor, so I listen to a lot of music. And a lot of the time, I'm thinking about the beat, and trying to imagine what choreography might be fun. But today, in the car, I actually listened to the lyrics.
They're simple – one little pair of rhymed couplets that repeats through the song. But those few words are powerful. Old, but not too old. Young, but not bold enough... For me, the 'old' part has never really been the problem. I've never really thought I was too old to do something. And even if I did, I didn't let it stop me.
The bold part – now that's a different story. For years, I had a fear of public speaking.
And I let it hold me back.
When I started taking Zumba® classes, I started in the back row, in a baggy t-shirt. Slowly but surely, my confidence grew, and I found myself moving forward. Eventually, I became a front-row diva. Now I teach 2 classes a week. My instructor – the one I started taking classes from, years ago – told me that she knew I would teach one day. She saw the bold in me before I did.
And I can see the bold in you.
It's easy to be bold when you're young. When you're 22 and just starting out in your career, it's relatively easy to believe that you'll work hard and that's all it will take to make your dreams come true. At 30 or 35 or 42.... it's not that easy. Maybe you've tried for those dreams and discovered that they were harder to achieve than you thought. Maybe they were impossible to achieve. Maybe you had kids and they became your priority.
Or maybe you've just lost track of your dreams. Maybe what you wanted at 22 isn't the same thing you want now.
Regardless, gathering the 'bold' now feels a lot more difficult than it used to be. But it's still there, somewhere, under the fear that you're too old, or not good enough, or not smart enough.
It's there. I see it in you, even if you don't see it in yourself... yet.
When I first considered becoming a personal coach, I was firmly ensconced in my 9-to-5 corporate job. I wasn't miserable... exactly. I liked my boss and coworkers, even if my long commute meant that I spent less time with my kids than I wanted to. It wasn't a bad job, but it wasn't the right place for me.
And it took a long time for my idea to grow – for me to realize what I truly wanted. That going to a big, beige building and working all day, and making ok money, wasn't enough for me. I realized that I wanted to help people – and it was that knowledge that helped me find my bold – that helped me walk away from a corporate life that wasn't making me happy, and, more importantly, wasn't really doing anything to help anyone.
Think about where you are.
Think about where you'd like to be.
You're never too old to start following a path that brings you joy and fulfillment. You're not too old to change paths.
I found my bold.
And, if you're not happy with where your path has taken you, I'd like to help you find yours.